TBH.... I don't do new years resolutions. Why?
One, because doing so puts more pressure on the outcome rather than the commitment you need to uphold to actually get there.
Two, there are 364 other days in the year you can resolve to change something in your life.
And in fact, to actually make change happen you will probably have to mentally and emotionally find your "resolution" every single day.
Now, for those who really do want to 180 their lives, here’s what i’d recommend instead:
If all your basic needs are met, you need a stronger why than money, fame or even freedom.
In the beginning mine was to help people heal - I suffered for 3 1/2 years from chronic illness and completely reversed it, and I wanted to share that information. I also made massive changes and leaps in my career & created some of my dream projects after realizing that we can indeed change our lives.
But as time went on, I realized I needed an even higher intention to sustain my purpose work.
I tried to hustle through to the result and experienced burnout and a violate of my values & what I truly wanted to express.
And I realized unless my soul feels daily ENJOYMENT in what I'm doing, I'll falter and ask, “what’s the point?”
So my new intention is moment to moment:
Am I limiting myself from experiencing happiness and full self expression? If so, how can I meet myself in the moment to expand in love & abundance in my life?
This put the focus from the future outcome into the present moment, and guides me in my day to day decision making.
Find people who make the impossible possible.
This is often the first step - not the manifestation itself but asking - “universe, show me what’s possible for me and revealing my desire for it.”
When we don’t have people in our reality that show us the way, it becomes infinitely harder to pursue the path. Get with a community that truly understands you and are also wanting to create something BADASS in their lives.
Raise your standards for your friendships & support - you might be able to beat the minions of the mind by yourself, but without a good party it gets hard to beat the bosses AKA the self doubt that will inevitably rise up.
In the beginning, I did this with accountability groups with friends who also had passion projects. As I got more clear on what my dream career path & business looked like, I got into masterminds and private communities that had people with the same goals and values who were also ahead of me in their careers to guarantee momentum.
As the year goes on, life gets in the fking way - unexpected circumstances, events, and emotional patterns.
These are all tests being thrown at you - are you REALLY ready for your purpose path, where you will likely have influence and power?
How can you lead yourself NOW and act from integrity and love, so you can lead your community when the time comes?
Society doesn’t teach us this - and instead of rising to lead and slaying self destructive patterns, we fall into complaints AND equally as harmful self blame.
Rising out of this is something you will be called to do again and again - master this and you master your life.
I find this ringing true for my life right now, with a set of unexpected challenges and circumstances in January.
In the beginning, I faced sooo much internal resistance thinking “I'm not in the ideal environment or surrounded by the right people for my best work!“
BUT...I realized that's the whole point of me being here. If I can rise to the moment and declare I will have the most INSPIRED & JOYFUL month, that I AM the source of the magic, I can lead others through difficult times as well.
To your becoming,
Ai